This month, we’re asking bloggers what they wish they knew back when they walked down the aisle. Today, we’re hearing from Running A Momathon’s Christina Garrett. Enjoy!
Most of us are blessed enough to be married to people that we not only love, but also like and enjoy being with. In the beginnings of relationships and marriage, we can’t seem to be with that person enough. We can stay up on the phone all night, then gaze at their beautiful eyes all day and never tire. We march on through the days, full of passion, unyielding affection and dreams of the future to come. However, when I married, I wish I had known……that marriage isn’t all that hard. Life is hard.
Some time after you exit the honeymoon phase, life carries on. It didn’t stop because you fell in love and skip through pastures of wildflowers, gazing at rainbows. Life goes on. You go back to work, and deal with more every day stresses. Bills, bills and more bills come knocking at your door. Family problems with aging, sick or even poor-tempered parents arise.
And then…..the stork arrives with a little bundle of joy. Wait! We didn’t plan for this! You end up trying to balance your “come-and-go-as-you-please” free spirits with burping, changing diapers and staying up all night, eyes red with sheer exhaustion. You’d rather sleep than have those all-day romps in the sack. Between these factors and the endless desire and fight for the “next level” instead of where you are, you realize that LIFE HAPPENS. Life is hard.
I wish I had known that it’s the war of the world outside our home that takes its greatest toll on your home, not always arguing, fussing and fighting. The key to winning the war is understanding that life is going to constantly beat against you, but you can still make a resolve to try and try to stay as true to the “old you” that you once were so that your home is still filled with the joy, love and passion that it once was.
Resolve that it’s you and your spouse against the world. Revisit your old hang-outs, the places that make your stomachs flutter. Find a way to flirt with each other again. Pick up a book or two about some new tips and tricks to try in the bedroom (explore this website)! Go back to the resourceful days when you didn’t have a dime, run a candlelit bath and give massages. Revisit the basics. Make it your objective that the doors of your home are a fortress that keeps out the battle and creates a home full of peace, patience and plenty of spiritual prosperity.