16 October 2012 ~ 16 Comments

Could You Walk in Your Spouse’s Shoes?

Wife kicks of work heels when she gets home

Today’s Challenge in the 30-Day Marriage Challenge is to think about what it would be like in your spouse’s shoes.

When I saw the challenge, to me it felt like a “non-challenge.” After all, how hard is it to think about something. To be honest, I was prepared to all but skip this one.

But since it is a challenge I wanted to at least try, so to truly try and understand what it would be like to be in his shoes, I thought the easiest way would be to mentally walk myself in his shoes through his day.

In his shoes, I wake up hours before the sun rises for work, getting dressed in the dark so I don’t disturb my wife while she is asleep.

I tell her I love her and kiss her goodbye, check on both kids while they’re asleep, and double check every door in the home (we have a lot) before I leave the house.

I arrive at the warehouse to pick up my truck and spend the next 8 hours or so in and out of stores, driving and making deliveries. Once I know my wife is awake, I call home to make sure everything is okay, because I don’t like leaving my family alone at home so early in the morning.

After work I pick my four-year-old up from school. Most of the time we go outside to play before I cook dinner.

After dinner, it’s time to relax until the kids’ bedtime. If it’s my night, I get our son ready for bed and read him a story before I go to sleep and get ready for the next day.

In his shoes, I do everything I can to protect and take care of my family. Now that I’m back in my own shoes, I know that I need to be more appreciative of all he does to make that true.

Take some time to do this exercise and “walk” in your spouse’s shoes. Comment and tell us what you think of the experience? Has it made you appreciate your spouse even more?

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16 Responses to “Could You Walk in Your Spouse’s Shoes?”

  1. Cindy B 16 October 2012 at 3:49 pm Permalink

    Thank you!!!

  2. Ronnie_bmwk 17 October 2012 at 1:00 am Permalink

    Great challenge…I don’t even think I could fill my hubby’s shoes…he does so much..this challenge definitely would leave you feeling appreciative of all that your spouse does.

  3. Ayanna 17 October 2012 at 1:28 am Permalink

    I never really thought of putting myself in my husbands shoes…they would be pretty hard to fill. Excellent exercise!

  4. Lamar @ BMWK 17 October 2012 at 12:58 pm Permalink

    This is good. More couples should sit down and try this out.

  5. Sara Lyn 17 October 2012 at 7:48 pm Permalink

    The start of my husband’s day sounds a lot like yours. He is so considerate and hardworking! This is a really great exercise.

  6. The Dose of Reality 18 October 2012 at 11:52 am Permalink

    This is a great challenge, and I really enjoyed reading about your experience. I definitely think taking time to “walk” in your partner’s shoes is a great idea. Stopping by from SITS.

  7. Sherelle 19 October 2012 at 2:58 pm Permalink

    This is something I needed to read today. My honey currently works two jobs, and is pretty much on his feet from 7am-10pm. He’s working hard, so that he can catch up and prepare for our wedding next summer. I fuss when I’m ‘too tired” to pick him up at night, but he’s doing the grueling work. I work a 8-5 in an office, so why do I complain? Great post! Stopping by from SITS!

    • Aja Jackson 19 October 2012 at 6:15 pm Permalink

      The exercise definitely helped me recognize the give and take in our relationship. Sometimes I can start thinking I’m doing it all, and this helped me realize that isn’t true at all. Thanks for stopping by!

  8. Andrea 20 October 2012 at 1:31 pm Permalink

    Hello from St. Louie. Stopping in from SITS. Great exercise. More couples need to try this exercise. Thanks for sharing.

  9. Dr. Michelle Johnson 20 October 2012 at 3:36 pm Permalink

    Absolutely not. My hubby is a Pastor. Not walking in those shoes. I love God and God’s people, but those are a pair of shoes I refuse to even try on. I pray for my hubby daily.

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