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02 June 2015 ~ 0 Comments

June Challenge: Show Public Displays of Affection

Engage in public displays of affection!


Happy June!

June is here, summer is right around the corner, so it’s time for your monthly challenge reminder.

This month, your challenge is to do it in public.

Okay, not “it,” because you can get in trouble like that, (and if you decide on that don’t say that I told you so).

Instead, it’s time to engage in some public displays of affection. Do you hold hands when you’re walking through the mall? Hug in front of the kids? Reach your arm around the other in the movie theater? This month, make it a point to physically connect in small ways when you’re outside of the house.

If you’re not a PDA person and need somewhere to start, the next time you’re out, just hold your spouse’s hand while you walk. If you haven’t done this in a long time, it will surprise and hopefully make him or her happy.

Are you up for the challenge? Comment and let us know!

09 March 2015 ~ 0 Comments

March Love Challenge: Give a Compliment Every Day

March Love Challenge


It’s time for the March Love Challenge! This month’s challenge is to make it a point to compliment your spouse each and every day. This could be a compliment about a personality trait, a recent accomplishment, or simply “You look nice today.” Try not to think too hard about it. Just do it. Even if you’re mad (the most important part).

Are you in on it? Comment and let us know and you’ll be entered to win a free, signed copy of Making Love in the Microwave: A Busy Couple’s Guide to a Great Marriage!


06 February 2015 ~ 0 Comments

Before the Altar: 150 Questions Every Engaged Couple Needs to Ask

Before the Altar: 150 Questions Every Engaged Couple Needs to Ask

Hey folks!

It’s been pretty quiet around here because I’ve been back in the lab, coming up with some new material! Before the Altar: 150 Questions Every Engaged Couple Needs to Ask is my new guide to help empower couples to make good decisions before they walk down the aisle.

Why did I come up with this? See an excerpt from the book’s introduction below.

I’m about to give you some bad news (but there’s good news to come, I promise).

Regardless of what you’ve seen all of your life in the movies, love won’t find a way.

Love, like life, while powerful, is really just a shapeless, motionless blob. In fact the whole premise of  Making Love in the Microwave is that love is in the doing. You cannot expect love to just “happen” forever. Love won’t make a way. You have to make a way for it.

Now, the good news: You are in the best possible position to create your love story.

Right now, everything that your marriage will be is in front of you. Once you are five, ten, twenty years in, your marriage has already taken a shape. Many of your relationship patterns have already been established. That’s not to say that you can’t adjust after you get there, but it’s a lot harder to stop a rock that’s already rolling the wrong way down a hill than it is to push it in the right direction in the first place.

As an engaged couple, you are standing at the top of the hill. The rock is in your hands. And with the right knowledge, you will gain the power to decide which way you want it to go.

What I aim to do in Before the Altar is identify some of the most common conflict areas in marriage, and through multiple questions sections pinpoint the essential questions couples need to ask before they walk down the aisle. With a wrap up activity at the end of each section and free workbook, Before the Altar is designed for couples of all backgrounds to not only ask the hard questions, but to use the information learned to give their marriage the best possible outcome.

Now the great news: Before the Altar won’t be released officially on Amazon until Valentine’s Day, but now through Valentine’s Day you can pre-order the e-book for only .99 cents and have it automatically delivered to your Kindle (or other device) on Valentine’s Day. And you can scoop up my first book, Making Love in the Microwave: A Busy Couple’s Guide to a Great Marriage, for only .99 cents between February 7 and February 14.

In case you weren’t doing the math, that’s two awesome marriage resources for less than $2. If you’re already married, you can get your copy of Making Love in the Microwave and gift your copy of Before the Altar to another couple that’s just starting out!

 Get the Before the Altar: 150 Questions Every Engaged Couple Should Ask e-book delivered to you on Valentine’s Day for just .99 cents

Get Making Love in the Microwave: A Busy Couple’s Guide to a Great Marriage for just .99 cents from February 7 through February 14th! 


30 January 2015 ~ 0 Comments

14 Days of Valentine’s Gift Giving Challenge!

14 Days of Valentine's Day Gift Giving

Today is the second to last day of our January focus, Spend at least 10 minutes per day together. How did you do? Had any positive changes because of it?

Tomorrow begins our countdown to Valentine’s Day, but because I’m all about the little things, don’t look here for a review of all of the expensive stuff, because I don’t have that kind of money so I don’t own it to review!

Our Valentine’s countdown is all about the little ways you can love your spouse without breaking your pockets. Each day I’ll send you a “gift” to give your spouse leading up to V-Day. But don’t worry, other than taking a little of your time, most of these gifts are FREE. (The ones that aren’t won’t be more than $5, I promise).

Are you up for it? Sign up to get the PDF of your challenge and your daily challenge reminders!

05 January 2015 ~ 2 Comments

January Love Challenge: Spend 10 Minutes Each Day With Your Spouse

January Love Challenge 2015

Happy New Year!

If you haven’t been a Making Love in the Microwave-er for a while, the monthly love challenge is a way to hone in on healthy habits to help build a better relationship with your spouse. Each month we focus in a different area of your relationship to help get and keep you on the path to marital bliss.

This month’s focus is to spend at least 10 minutes each day with your spouse. Now, some of you may be thinking that 10 minutes together shouldn’t be challenging. We would ideally be spending much more time than that with our partners every day. The point of this exercise though, is not just to happen to spend time together, but to be intentional about making that time for your spouse so that it remains a habit even when life gets busy. Making sure that you have at least that amount of time set aside for each other will help start building the healthy relationship habits that will make the habits for the rest of the year possible.

If you’re already spending 10 minutes each day together every day, that’s great! Remember the challenge is “at least.” So I promise it’s not a problem if you have more time than that. Throughout the month, we’ll be posting activities to help make that 10 minutes fun.

Are you up for the challenge? Comment and let us know!

17 November 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Marriage Gratitude Challenge Starts Today!

Grace: A 10-Day Guide to Marriage Forgiveness and Gratitude
Update: The Gratitude Challenge has ended and the Grace e-book is no longer available. To join our other challenges and to find out get access to our free e-books when they are available, join our mailing list!
The Grace Gratitude Challenge starts today! If you’re just joining us, sign up below for your challenge resources. If you are already on our email list, you should have received your links this morning.
The free e-book and workbook will only be available through Thanksgiving, so make sure you download yours today!

14 October 2014 ~ 0 Comments

I Love You Because: Free Printable!

Free printable!

You know you love your spouse, but it never hurts to remind him, and yourself, of those little reasons why. Download this free “I Love You Because” printable, cut out the coupons, and fill in a reason why you’re so in love each day for the next week . Leave a note in your spouse’s lunch each day, on the mirror in the morning, or anywhere you think he or she will see it to help brighten his or her day.

BONUS: Play along with us! Share your reason why for at least one day between now and October 24th on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and tag us to be entered to win a free, signed copy of Making Love in the Microwave: A Busy Couple’s Guide to a Great Marriage!

Tag us on Twitter or Instagram@microwavelove and use hashtag #ILoveYouBecause or Post to our Facebook page at Making Love in the Microwave.



What’s your reason why today? Comment and let us know!

30 September 2014 ~ 2 Comments

October Love Challenge: Reminisce

October Love Challenge


October kicks off the month to remember the things that brought you together and ignited your love for one another. Dancing together or remembering the best you ever had are fun ways to keep the reasons why you fell in love in the forefront of your mind.

And, since you guys had so much fun with it last year, we’ll be doing our couples’ photo challenge again! Stay tuned for details.

Since we’re in the spirit of reminiscing, I’d love to kick it off with a little question for you. How did you and your spouse meet? Comment and let us know!

Find more ways to make your marriage a priority in 15 Minutes for 15 Days in the free guide.

23 September 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Rescue Your Marriage from Your Newborn! 13 Ideas that Really Work

Pregnant couple

Once upon a time, you were a couple without an infant. You may or may not have been joined at the hip, but you were close. You thought about stuff you wanted to do, and you did all of it. Or sometimes you didn’t want to do anything and did none of it, but you were all or nothing together.

And then you found out you were having a baby. The baby was placed in your belly instead of between your shoulder blades to symbolize the fact that there was quite literally someone coming between the two of you: The perfect little intruder; blending both of you together and at the same time wedging you apart.

Your world shrunk to accommodate him while your life became tunnel-vision focused on protecting those ten tiny fingers and toes. Getting closer to your little one caused tiny separations between the two of you that pushed you further apart. Dad is sound asleep while Mom is on newborn night shift. Mom is trying to catch up on sleep while Dad is watching a movie alone. It felt like both of you were holding both ends of the marriage fabric while one of you moved and the other stood still. Tears started to arise.

So you tried to fix it by doing all the stuff you’re supposed to do. But something about leaky boobs never meshed with sexy lingerie and sometimes date-night energy felt better when it turned into sleep.

Has this ever been your story? Is it your story right now? So what do you do when you have a new baby and you’re too tired to do everything that is supposed to work?

Hug. Or fall against each other in tired desperation and try to hold each other up.

Watch the news. There’s a reason why your grandparents do this. Watching the news is different than lying around watching your favorite show because you end up talking about what they’re talking about and they’re never talking about your baby. Politics, sports, five-legged frogs- it forces you to have a conversation.

“Shop” online. But not really. The safest way to do this is to look up a bunch of stuff that you can by no means afford and talk about how ridiculous it is and what you would do if you could afford it. Our favorite thing is to look up houses with a starting price of one million dollars. Oh the laughs….

Order a different kind of carry-out. It doesn’t have to always be Chinese or pizza. Some of your favorite restaurants that aren’t carry-outs may be accommodating if you just call and ask them to box up your favorite dish.

Put the baby in the stroller and go for a walk. Find new places to walk.

Say no together. If one of you went every time you probably could do everything. But sometimes you just have to both phone it in and say no. Sounds crazy, but sometimes learning how to suffer together is the best way to connect.

Split up. But sometimes it pays not to be a pair. Give each other breaks. One person can stay with the baby while the other goes out. Or sleeps. Or goes running and screaming into the night.

Put the baby in the car and go get ice cream (or something else) from a drive through. Sit in the parking lot and eat it.

Start a new Netflix series together.

Give each other shoulder rubs. Or foot rubs. Or everything rubs if you feel up to it.

Play an easy card or table game like Uno or Connect Four.

Be there for each other. Just be there. Even if you’re just sitting next to each other in silence.

Remember, this too shall pass. Say it to each other when you need to. Know that it will.

Did you feel strain on your marriage after having a baby? How did you stay connected?

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15 September 2014 ~ 2 Comments

Download Your Free 15-Day Marriage Jumpstart!

Have you tried the 15-day jumpstart?

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