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14 October 2014 ~ 0 Comments

I Love You Because: Free Printable!

Free printable!

You know you love your spouse, but it never hurts to remind him, and yourself, of those little reasons why. Download this free “I Love You Because” printable, cut out the coupons, and fill in a reason why you’re so in love each day for the next week . Leave a note in your spouse’s lunch each day, on the mirror in the morning, or anywhere you think he or she will see it to help brighten his or her day.

BONUS: Play along with us! Share your reason why for at least one day between now and October 24th on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and tag us to be entered to win a free, signed copy of Making Love in the Microwave: A Busy Couple’s Guide to a Great Marriage!

Tag us on Twitter or Instagram@microwavelove and use hashtag #ILoveYouBecause or Post to our Facebook page at Making Love in the Microwave.

CLICK HERE TO PRINT YOUR LOVE NOTES!

 

What’s your reason why today? Comment and let us know!

30 September 2014 ~ 2 Comments

October Love Challenge: Reminisce

October Love Challenge

 

October kicks off the month to remember the things that brought you together and ignited your love for one another. Dancing together or remembering the best you ever had are fun ways to keep the reasons why you fell in love in the forefront of your mind.

And, since you guys had so much fun with it last year, we’ll be doing our couples’ photo challenge again! Stay tuned for details.

Since we’re in the spirit of reminiscing, I’d love to kick it off with a little question for you. How did you and your spouse meet? Comment and let us know!

Find more ways to make your marriage a priority in 15 Minutes for 15 Days in the free guide.

23 September 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Rescue Your Marriage from Your Newborn! 13 Ideas that Really Work

Pregnant couple

Once upon a time, you were a couple without an infant. You may or may not have been joined at the hip, but you were close. You thought about stuff you wanted to do, and you did all of it. Or sometimes you didn’t want to do anything and did none of it, but you were all or nothing together.

And then you found out you were having a baby. The baby was placed in your belly instead of between your shoulder blades to symbolize the fact that there was quite literally someone coming between the two of you: The perfect little intruder; blending both of you together and at the same time wedging you apart.

Your world shrunk to accommodate him while your life became tunnel-vision focused on protecting those ten tiny fingers and toes. Getting closer to your little one caused tiny separations between the two of you that pushed you further apart. Dad is sound asleep while Mom is on newborn night shift. Mom is trying to catch up on sleep while Dad is watching a movie alone. It felt like both of you were holding both ends of the marriage fabric while one of you moved and the other stood still. Tears started to arise.

So you tried to fix it by doing all the stuff you’re supposed to do. But something about leaky boobs never meshed with sexy lingerie and sometimes date-night energy felt better when it turned into sleep.

Has this ever been your story? Is it your story right now? So what do you do when you have a new baby and you’re too tired to do everything that is supposed to work?

Hug. Or fall against each other in tired desperation and try to hold each other up.

Watch the news. There’s a reason why your grandparents do this. Watching the news is different than lying around watching your favorite show because you end up talking about what they’re talking about and they’re never talking about your baby. Politics, sports, five-legged frogs- it forces you to have a conversation.

“Shop” online. But not really. The safest way to do this is to look up a bunch of stuff that you can by no means afford and talk about how ridiculous it is and what you would do if you could afford it. Our favorite thing is to look up houses with a starting price of one million dollars. Oh the laughs….

Order a different kind of carry-out. It doesn’t have to always be Chinese or pizza. Some of your favorite restaurants that aren’t carry-outs may be accommodating if you just call and ask them to box up your favorite dish.

Put the baby in the stroller and go for a walk. Find new places to walk.

Say no together. If one of you went every time you probably could do everything. But sometimes you just have to both phone it in and say no. Sounds crazy, but sometimes learning how to suffer together is the best way to connect.

Split up. But sometimes it pays not to be a pair. Give each other breaks. One person can stay with the baby while the other goes out. Or sleeps. Or goes running and screaming into the night.

Put the baby in the car and go get ice cream (or something else) from a drive through. Sit in the parking lot and eat it.

Start a new Netflix series together.

Give each other shoulder rubs. Or foot rubs. Or everything rubs if you feel up to it.

Play an easy card or table game like Uno or Connect Four.

Be there for each other. Just be there. Even if you’re just sitting next to each other in silence.

Remember, this too shall pass. Say it to each other when you need to. Know that it will.

Did you feel strain on your marriage after having a baby? How did you stay connected?

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15 September 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Download Your Free 15-Day Marriage Jumpstart!

Have you tried the 15-day jumpstart?

There’s no time like the present to get closer to your spouse and start getting or keeping your marriage on the right track! Join the hundreds of couples who have started making the little changes that make a big difference in your marriage by devoting just 15 minutes per day to one another for two weeks.

The best part: it’s free! Download your free 15-minutes, 15-days e-book today

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11 September 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Coming Soon!

A little while back, I sent out a message asking what content you wanted to see covered on our blog. We wanted to know about your biggest frustrations so that we could address them and make sure that Making Love in the Microwave was helping you in the best possible way.

You responded in a big way, we listened and will have fresh new ideas to help you along this marriage journey coming soon.

Some of the issues you sent that we’ll be covering in the months to come:

  • How to deal with unwanted in-laws
  • Connecting after the birth of a baby
  • Managing opposite schedules
  • Healing after infidelity
  • Handling cultural differences
  • Dealing with age differences
  • Spouses with low self esteem

…and much more!

No matter what the issue, there was not one problem that only one of you faced. The message: no matter what you’re going through in your marriage, you are not alone, and we are here to make you feel less so.

I am excited, and I hope you are too! If there is a topic you would like to see covered, feel free to let me know. I’d love to hear from you.

You are 15 days away from a better marriage. Download the 15-day, 15-minute challenge today!

 

18 August 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Encourage Him

Encourage your spouse

17 August 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Three Things Your Pregnant Wife Needs to Hear

Pregnant couple

I had to write this guest post over on BMWK this week while the topic of pregnancy (and the accompanying ridiculous comments). Stop by and check out the Three Things Your Pregnant Wife Needs to Hear. Be sure to leave a comment and let me know if you agree!

 

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05 August 2014 ~ 0 Comments

The Good, The Bad and The Ugly of Breastfeeding

breastfeeding baby

Hey Folks!

The Making Love in the Microwave revamp continues! I will be posting new content her in the very near future, so look out for new content and challenges soon. In the meantime, please check out my post on Diary of a First Time Mom: The Good, the bad, and the ugly of breastfeeding. It’s a good read if you or your wife have ever been in this situation, and if not, please share with another mom who has.

Talk to you soon!

Aja

02 August 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Three Surprising Marriage Lessons Learned from a Newborn

Tired mom with baby

Hi Readers! I just published a new post over at BMWK called Three Surprising Marriage Lessons Learned from a Newborn. Go check it out!

Just so you know, in response to your ideas on what content you would like to see on the site, I am in the process of relaunching Making Love in the Microwave. You’ll notice a lot of things changing around here in the future. I always welcome your ideas and suggestions as we prepare for this new phase of Making Love in the Microwave.

I didn’t want to leave you hanging without new content though, so I’ll send you links to all of the guest posts I’m writing on other blogs.

Could you also do me a small favor?

Share and comment on the posts for me. It helps get eyes on my content and increases my chances of getting invited to write for them again.

Thanks!
Aja

 

 

 

20 July 2014 ~ 2 Comments

A Question for Our Readers

Hey Everyone!

If you’re a regular blog reader, you may have noticed that I kind of dropped off of the face of the earth after my tearful end-of-pregnancy break down back in April. We welcomed our new little boy to the world on May 8, and I’ve taken the weeks since then just to sit back and focus on being his mom.

He's stolen my heart! And a lot of my time...

He’s stolen my heart! And a lot of my time…

As I head back to work at my full-time job, I’ve been thinking about the future of Making Love in the Microwave, and it’s time to make some adjustments. Before making any changes, I wanted to ask you a simple question:

What’s your biggest frustration with being able to feel connected to your spouse?

If you’ll take a moment to think about it and write me an answer, either below in the comments or by using the contact form I promise to read and consider it.

Here’s why:

I want this blog to help you. I want it to change your life. I want you to count down the days until we publish our next post. And that means focusing on YOUR needs. So, please, take a moment and let me know what’s bothering you. It’ll be a huge help to me.

Thanks!

Aja