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15 September 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Download Your Free 15-Day Marriage Jumpstart!

Have you tried the 15-day jumpstart?

There’s no time like the present to get closer to your spouse and start getting or keeping your marriage on the right track! Join the hundreds of couples who have started making the little changes that make a big difference in your marriage by devoting just 15 minutes per day to one another for two weeks.

The best part: it’s free! Download your free 15-minutes, 15-days e-book today



11 September 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Coming Soon!

A little while back, I sent out a message asking what content you wanted to see covered on our blog. We wanted to know about your biggest frustrations so that we could address them and make sure that Making Love in the Microwave was helping you in the best possible way.

You responded in a big way, we listened and will have fresh new ideas to help you along this marriage journey coming soon.

Some of the issues you sent that we’ll be covering in the months to come:

  • How to deal with unwanted in-laws
  • Connecting after the birth of a baby
  • Managing opposite schedules
  • Healing after infidelity
  • Handling cultural differences
  • Dealing with age differences
  • Spouses with low self esteem

…and much more!

No matter what the issue, there was not one problem that only one of you faced. The message: no matter what you’re going through in your marriage, you are not alone, and we are here to make you feel less so.

I am excited, and I hope you are too! If there is a topic you would like to see covered, feel free to let me know. I’d love to hear from you.

You are 15 days away from a better marriage. Download the 15-day, 15-minute challenge today!


18 August 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Encourage Him

Encourage your spouse

17 August 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Three Things Your Pregnant Wife Needs to Hear

Pregnant couple

I had to write this guest post over on BMWK this week while the topic of pregnancy (and the accompanying ridiculous comments). Stop by and check out the Three Things Your Pregnant Wife Needs to Hear. Be sure to leave a comment and let me know if you agree!


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05 August 2014 ~ 0 Comments

The Good, The Bad and The Ugly of Breastfeeding

breastfeeding baby

Hey Folks!

The Making Love in the Microwave revamp continues! I will be posting new content her in the very near future, so look out for new content and challenges soon. In the meantime, please check out my post on Diary of a First Time Mom: The Good, the bad, and the ugly of breastfeeding. It’s a good read if you or your wife have ever been in this situation, and if not, please share with another mom who has.

Talk to you soon!


02 August 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Three Surprising Marriage Lessons Learned from a Newborn

Tired mom with baby

Hi Readers! I just published a new post over at BMWK called Three Surprising Marriage Lessons Learned from a Newborn. Go check it out!

Just so you know, in response to your ideas on what content you would like to see on the site, I am in the process of relaunching Making Love in the Microwave. You’ll notice a lot of things changing around here in the future. I always welcome your ideas and suggestions as we prepare for this new phase of Making Love in the Microwave.

I didn’t want to leave you hanging without new content though, so I’ll send you links to all of the guest posts I’m writing on other blogs.

Could you also do me a small favor?

Share and comment on the posts for me. It helps get eyes on my content and increases my chances of getting invited to write for them again.





20 July 2014 ~ 2 Comments

A Question for Our Readers

Hey Everyone!

If you’re a regular blog reader, you may have noticed that I kind of dropped off of the face of the earth after my tearful end-of-pregnancy break down back in April. We welcomed our new little boy to the world on May 8, and I’ve taken the weeks since then just to sit back and focus on being his mom.

He's stolen my heart! And a lot of my time...

He’s stolen my heart! And a lot of my time…

As I head back to work at my full-time job, I’ve been thinking about the future of Making Love in the Microwave, and it’s time to make some adjustments. Before making any changes, I wanted to ask you a simple question:

What’s your biggest frustration with being able to feel connected to your spouse?

If you’ll take a moment to think about it and write me an answer, either below in the comments or by using the contact form I promise to read and consider it.

Here’s why:

I want this blog to help you. I want it to change your life. I want you to count down the days until we publish our next post. And that means focusing on YOUR needs. So, please, take a moment and let me know what’s bothering you. It’ll be a huge help to me.



22 April 2014 ~ 3 Comments

I Cried Real Office Tears

Woman Crying

If you’re a regular blog reader, you may have noticed that I’ve been on a little bit of a hiatus for the last couple of weeks. I haven’t abandoned the blog and run screaming into the night. But I have given myself a little time for a mental health break. With a new baby coming in less than two weeks and still working full time I had to look around for a moment and say to myself “you’re doing too much,” and then act accordingly.

Although I’m an advocate of making sure you take care of you and aren’t constantly running until your body forces you to drop, I’ll admit that I didn’t rest willingly this time. My bit of time off came after a day off real office tears.

How I ended up in tears at work on a Monday morning started with the Saturday before. Following my baby shower,  my five-year-old son threw up all night long. I spent all Saturday night and Sunday morning stripping sheets, wiping down mattresses, cleaning floors, and starting the whole process over again…and again.

By mid-day Sunday the barf-fest had ended, but I also realized that I hadn’t felt the baby inside move since around 5 a.m. that morning, at all.

Lying on my side, I gulped down cold water, usually a sure-fire way to get the baby moving. Nothing. And then the contractions started. Painful contractions. I called my doctor who told me to head to labor and delivery.

After hours in L&D everything checked out, so I could get home and back to not sleeping at night.

On Monday morning I woke up and briefly considered staying home from work and then decided against it in the midst of our busiest season. I dragged myself out of bed prepping myself for my morning, which would include getting the kids to school, and a doctor’s appointment before heading into the office.

All of it would have to wait for a few minutes though, because in my inability to bend all the way down in cleaning up throw up the day before, I had missed a spot, which my daughter kindly informed me of as I exited the shower. I still haven’t decided whether cleaning up fresh throw up or dried throw up is the more enjoyable task.

After making sure that my home was finally vomit-free, I woke up my son, whose first words were: “I peed in the bed.”

Again I strip the sheets for probably the 79th time in 48 hours. Get him in and out of the tub, hand him his uniform and tell him to get dressed.

In the meantime, I go downstairs to make the lunches that I didn’t make the night before while I was in labor and delivery and make lunch and breakfast.  And in the brief moment that I let my mind wander, I remember that I didn’t submit a blog post that was due the day before.

“Crap!!” I yell to no one in particular.

I head back upstairs to tell my son breakfast is ready and to hurry up because we’re running late.

He’s asleep. In his underwear.

“Logan!!! Wake up! You’re not going to have time to eat now!”

“But I’m hungry.” Pouting.

The cat meows. I stifle a scream.

I throw him in his clothes. He eats half of his breakfast and we head out the door just in time to get him to school early and my daughter to school late. As I’m driving my daughter to school she says “I’m probably going to be really late for school once the baby comes.” Which is exactly what I needed to hear, before she got out of the car without responding to my goodbye.

I resist the urge to yell out of the window at how rude she is. I don’t have the energy to be embarrassing. I get to the doctor’s office and sit and wait for an hour for an appointment that lasts all of eight minutes.

Finally I make it to work, the contractions strengthening with every step as I make my way up the stairs to my office.

I sit at my desk and see the emails that have come in over the weekend, bold and needing responses. And that’s when the tears come. Sitting at my desk I cried big, fat baby tears without bothering to close my office door.

It wasn’t the first day I’ve had a hectic morning, it wasn’t the worst, and it won’t be the last, but it was a moment that I realized that now might be a good time to take it easy, or at least easier. Life is about to get better, but busier, Making Love in the Microwave is about to get harder, so in this brief moment, I plan to take a deep breath before my life needs to expand to make room for another life in it.

So if you see me sparingly over the next week or so, I am not gone, just preparing and breathing. In the interim, I would love to hear from some of you. If you have a great date to share, story about your marriage, quick tip, or anything else, I would love to see it and share it as a guest post on the blog. Please contact me or email aja@makingloveinthemicrowave.com.

16 April 2014 ~ 0 Comments

There Are No Prerequisites for Happiness

Life doesn’t give us any pre-requisites for choosing happiness. We can choose love and choose happiness through the little things each and every day.

How have you chosen happiness in your life today in spite of your circumstances? 

04 April 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Best of the Marriage Web: #ReadLove Edition

Jigsaw Heart

In honor of this month’s #ReadLove challenge, I’m posting the tweets that about marriage that made me smile this week. Here are my top 10:

 Apr 1

“Remember to always tell me you love me but also show me that you really care, by your actions” Love is an ACTION verb! #Marriage


Heavenly Angel Wives ‏@bramant1  Mar 31

“Coming together is the beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success. #marriage


Justin & Megan ‏@_DoNot_Disturb  Mar 31

What can I do right now – today – to BE loving even if I don’t FEEL loved? http://donotdisturbblog.com/2014/03/31/here-and-now/ … #Marriage #Healing


Together for Life ‏@tog4life  Mar 31

Progress always involves risks. You can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first ~ Frederick B. Wilcox #marriage


Love. Work. Repeat. ‏@loveworkrepeat  Mar 29

Success in #marriage doesn’t just come from finding the right mate but also from being the right mate! http://ow.ly/i/52fgB 


MarriageDance ‏@marriagedance  Mar 29

“A happy #marriage does not depend on the right circumstances or the perfect person.” @LesParrott http://shar.es/B2GRg 


The Pure Bed™ ‏@ThePureBed  Mar 29

Her head on my shoulder, she wraps her arm around my waist. After years of #marriage, she still loves to be near me. #ThatsSexy


Jared Ensminger ‏@jaredensminger  14m

Excited for the days when I never have to “visiting my fiancé” again! #marriage #ftw #58DaysToGo


Lori Ferguson ‏@Ready2Encourage  4h

Sacrifice is a beautiful part of #marriage. The beauty shows up only after time – are you watching?


paulbaloche ‏@paulbaloche  Mar 28

27 years goes faster than you think. So don’t blink. Happy Anniversary baby! #marriage http://instagram.com/p/mGXJsxjxiM/